弱點 3 Weaknesses 3

Sometimes, we have a weakness, and we don't even know it.

有時候，我們甚至不知道自己的弱點究竟在哪裡？

This is where we can all use a little bit of help from an outside observer to let us know.

這時，別人可以提醒，讓我們知道自己的弱點。

For example, some people love to bargain with the shop owner and get a better deal. Some people are reluctant to do so.

例如，有些人喜歡與賣方討價還價，有些人不願意這樣做。

For people who like to bargain, they don't understand why more people won't bargain. Why do they want to leave money in shopkeepers' pockets?

喜歡討價還價的人，永遠也不明白為什麼有些人不想。能夠少付錢就少付錢，為什麼要多付錢給賣方？

For people who loathe to bargain, they don't understand why other people have the courage and the skill to bargain, and why do they care about getting a little bit of advantage, even if it's only some small nominal values. They think it is because of greed.

不想討價還價的人，也不明白為什麼其他人膽敢、且有技巧的討價還價。為什麼他們會為一點點錢如此的計較？ 不想討價還價的人認為這就是「貪」。

It is possible that some people don't like to bargain, because they are indifference to the price.

有可能，某些人不喜歡討價還價，因為他們對這些東西的價錢不是很在乎。

Some people don't do this because of their cultural background, they might think this is an inappropriate behavior.

有些人，可能是因為這不是他們的文化背景，認為這是不適當的行為。

But it is also possible that some people don't like to bargain because they were hurt in the process before, so now they avoid it because of sorrow.

但也有可能某些人不喜歡討價還價，是因為他們在這個過程中被傷害過，所以現在他們避免討價還價、避免想起悲傷的經驗。

There might be others who do not like to bargain because they do not like confrontations. They are actually fearful of confrontations.

有些人不喜歡跟他人對抗，但他們內心其實是「害怕對抗」的。

While these weaknesses might not be of any importance in getting a good price, in other circumstances, they can be a matter of utmost importance.

雖然這些弱點在買東西這方面不是很重要，然在其他情況下，這些弱點可能成為關鍵。

When your principles are been attacked, do you stand up and defend yourself? Or do you let your "fear of confrontation" or "avoidance of sorrow" take over? When your livelihood are been attacked, what do you do? When your survival is at stake, what then?

當您的原則被攻擊，您會站起來捍衛自己嗎？ 或者您用自己「避免悲傷」或「害怕對抗」 的情緒來應付這些攻擊？當您的生活遭到襲擊，會怎麼做呢？當您的生存受到威脅時，該怎麼辦呢？

Constant "avoidance of sorrow" and "fear of confrontation" can lead you to believe that these are not weaknesses, that it's just the way you are. You lie to yourself the reason for your choices.

長期的「避免悲傷」或「害怕對抗」會讓您相信這些都不是弱點，只是本性，自然流露出來。就這樣，您欺騙了自己。

Now, don't go right out and start bargain with every store. That is not the point. Because people who like to bargain might have issues too. The important things is to start to understand yourself from every encounters in life.

不是說您每次去買東西都要討價還價，這並不是重點。 因為喜歡討價還價的人，也可能有弱點才喜歡討價還價的。 重點是，要從生活中遇到的事去開始了解自己。

Understand yourself is the most important first step. 

「了解自己」是最重要的第一步。

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