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請教師父~

您看了這麼多弟子的困難、糾纏、各種來自外在的攻擊，會傾向這是「惡意」的無所不在嗎？抑或只是生命無限輪迴，彼此糾纏苦迫？

 

現實生活中老是看到、體驗到

人與人之間互相的為難，自己過不好，所有也不要對方好過⋯

沒有什麼原因，我就是要對方痛苦⋯

 

人間，真的很難懂啊 人間，存在沒有條件的愛和善嗎？

看多了 都懷疑了⋯⋯⋯

 

回答：

上面的問題我楞了很久！

回答的不好會落入人性本善、本惡的老調。

前面說我自己沒空做太多迴向，想再往前走，就是不想陷入上面你說的死胡同裡。

 

我個人在修行裡養成不去想他人如何，只問自己有什麼能力面對與處理，

以我的修行經驗如能達到「抽離人與人之間對待的感受」則輕鬆許多，當然這不容易。

 

至於愛與善只能說；我個人至今存在愛（慈悲）與善，

然而！不存在的愛與善也視為理所當然，

畢竟，慈悲喜捨不是廉價品。

 

更早的時候，我個人也喜歡用: 相濡以沫 ，不如相忘於江湖。來淡化對人世間的期許。

 

（寫的有點深，世代隔閡動動腦想一下！）

半寄

 

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Question:

 

Master, after seeing so many of your disciples' difficulties, entanglements, and various external attacks, do you tend to believe that there is "malice" everywhere? Or is it simply the endless cycle of life, where beings are entangled and suffering together?

 

In real life, I often see and experience people making things hard for each other. Some people can’t live well themselves and don’t want others to be happy either... There’s no reason for it; they just want others to suffer...

 

Life is really hard to understand. Is there unconditional love and kindness in this world? After seeing so much, I’m starting to doubt it...

 

Answer:

 

I thought about your question for a long time. If I answer poorly, it will fall into the old story of whether human nature is inherently good or evil. Earlier, I mentioned that I don’t have much time for excessive prayers or rituals; I just want to move forward and avoid getting stuck in the dead end you mentioned.

 

In my own practice, I’ve learned not to focus on how others behave, but to ask myself what abilities I have to face and handle things. From my experience in practice, if I can achieve the state of "detachment from the feelings of how people treat each other," life becomes much easier. Of course, this isn’t easy to do.

 

As for love and kindness, I can only say that I personally still experience love (compassion) and kindness. However, I also accept that there are places where love and kindness are absent—this is also a natural part of life. After all, compassion and loving-kindness aren’t cheap.

 

Earlier on, I often used the phrase: "Rather than just supporting each other in difficult times, sometimes it's better to let go of attachments and embrace the world with a renewed self." This helped me lower my expectations of human relationships.

 

(It's a bit deep—think about it from different perspectives across generations!)

 

 Master Banji